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H-25 : If I Knew Then What I Know Now

Daisypath berkata 3 minggu dan 3 hari lagi menjelang hari saya diperistri. What is that word? Diperistri? Dijadikan istri? As if menjadi istri adalah cita-cita. Kenapa nggak ada dipersuami? Ah gender bias, how I dislike thee.

Semantics aside, mari kita reka ulang kalimat tersebut menjadi : 3 minggu dan 3 hari lagi menjelang hari saya memiliki seorang partner hidup.

Oh wow.

Drama sudah semakin tak terhitung.

Kebaya akad & resepsi gagal 1 bulan menuju hari H? Been there.

Pusing seputar pengaturan panitia keluarga? Done that.

Kena slepet di rapat keluarga? Oh chenchuuu.



I am so much more excited about the marriage than the wedding. Yeah I know I’ve said that. I don’t know why I said it like it’s a bad thing. It’s a good thing. It’s a reminder of what truly matters. 

Then I came across this post by Edward Suhadi 

and now I am slowly letting go. Of all the things that are beyond my control. All the things that didn’t go the way I expected it to be. All my concept and color schemes slowly falling down into the abyss of “ya udahlah ini juga bagus kok”. 

I am learning not to care, as the only thing to care about is that I am getting married. I am gaining a life partner, whom I chose, and chose me as well. To begin the rest of our lives together. 

And I love him more for the fact that he still has enough patience to remind me : 

“You can choose to sulk and have a crappy time, or we can laugh about it together and have a great time.”

I wish I remembered that since day one, instead of letting pressure from other people *hello parents* take over me.

By and.i.try

corporate slave by day. poet by night. rock chick by default.
eats cupcakes with a sip of nonsense.

4 replies on “H-25 : If I Knew Then What I Know Now”

“You can choose to sulk and have a crappy time, or we can laugh about it together and have a great time.”

This is soooooo true.

Pasangan hidup adalah orang yang selalu mampu membuat kita tetap waras, Ndied. Jadi ketika dia bisa memenuhi kriteria itu, yakinlah kamu sudah berada di jalan yang benar. Because at the end of the day, all you need is someone who can laugh together WITH you. 🙂

This is the very first comment I put in any blogs I’ve read for years. It’s simply because I feel too same with you at the moment. Been experiencing all those things you mentioned above, and sometimes I just feel really sick. Can’t wait to finish this soon.

And I agree with one of your lines above : It’s a reminder what truly matters.

Good luck for your wedding preparation. Hope everything run well. Amin.

Btw, nice blog you have and I’m Dewi;)

Amin Amin Amin, thank you so much dear Dewi for the prayers. I wish you the very best of luck as well for your wedding preparation, and I sincerely hope you will have a beautiful marriage that will keep you strong, happy and content for the rest of your life. After all, that’s what truly matters 😉

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