Another quote from a Beatle. But it just rang true.
I spoke to a friend the other day and we were discussing how some of our smartest, brightest, most attractive friends are stuck in a relationship rut. They’re either longing for a relationship but haven’t been able to establish one, or in a relationship with unavailable men. By this I speak broadly and include those who are in an imaginary relationship —more popularly known as bertepuk sebelah tangan— , those who are in (constant painstaking attemp to establish) a relationship with unavailable men, and those who are in a relationship with emotionally unavailable men.
I’ve been there, I’ve done all that, and I know how painful it is. Believe me, I know.
I am ever so grateful and feel really lucky to meet someone that I’m constantly in love with, as much as he is with me, and that we find a way to nurture a healthy coexistence between the two of us.
And now I know this :
There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance.
We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.
— John Lennon
My dear friend says she hasn’t found a way to love and accept herself. She’s a very beautiful, nice and smart person. How could that be? So here’s to you, my friend. May you slowly find a way to love and cherish yourself as much as I love and cherish you.